Unappreciated, Living Sacrifice

Posted on April 12, 2015


Whether in a local church setting, a work place, or in a marriage there are many times that an individual can find themselves in a situation where they are key to a particular aspect of duties, skills, or knowledge and real or seemingly not get recognized for their part. When this happens we feel unappreciated and the more this happens it can affect our relationships and how we respond in the future when needed. To make matters worse, if you are a person that makes sure you acknowledge others and you do not receive equal or some acknowledgment, this can really drag you down into discouragement.

Unappreciated in Marriage

In marriage we spend so much time with our spouses that marriage is place to feel unappreciated like no other. The list of potential places to feel unappreciated in marriage is so large.  The common way this can happen is when one person takes care of a task by themselves or a regular basis.  As an example maybe the wife does all the grocery shopping, pay all the bills, or possible anything else whether simple or large, even down to being the one that always calls in the pizza order, we have a need to be recognized and appreciated. On the other hand, we even need to be recognized for sacrifices such as being the full time worker while the other spouse is working on their education.  As life moves on our list of not being appreciated can get large and seem even bigger with other issues happening in the family such as kid issues, health problems, or lack of funds.

Getting Ahead of Your Promotion

Whether in secular work or in the church, who does not like to get a promotion? Often in the work place there is a system of promotion we are locked into and work with but even so when we perform well and know our job we like to be recognized and rewarded. The church is a different story often where there are various systems from denomination to local church for getting recognized, promoted, and even allowed to put your gifts and talent to work. To make things worse a prophet comes to the church and gives a great big prophecy to some one that is a “babe in Christ” still that they are to be an apostolic leader! Now this babe is looking for pulpit time and may have never hardly ever read their Bible with poor habits in serving.

King David is one of the best examples of having to wait.  He was a great kid and grew into a man after God’s own heart yet he had to wait decades for a prophecy to come to pass that was given to him in his early teens.  Look at Joseph who was another gifted young man that had to wait many years for his calling to fall into place.  Both David and Joseph suffered unjustly for years and they both had a clear calling on their lives, yet nether were obsessed with lack of appreciation.

Psalms 75:6 for promotion cometh neither from the east, nor from the west, nor from the south. 7 But God is the judge: he putteth down one, and setteth up another.

Are You In the Right Place?

I hear Christians making comments all the time about jobs, places to live, and many other things in phrases that you can tell pleasing God and seeking His will would be the last thing considered. Often these comments are off hand remarks but still, do we live an offhand Christian life and only some of our words mean things? If we are in a church, work place, or in fellowship with particular people and are feeling like we are not appreciated, are we in the right place? Is it time for promotion or not? If we are suffering or being restricted in who we are how are we dealing with that? Are we in prayer, do we have prophecy to back our position, does godly biblical wisdom support it, and what do others that are known wise councilors in your life say? We always need to find God’s heart put it first and be where He says to go or employ godly biblical wisdom to make our decisions.

I Peter 1: 19 For this is thankworthy, if a man for conscience toward God endure grief, suffering wrongfully. 20 For what glory is it, if, when ye be buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it patiently? but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it, ye take it patiently, this is acceptable with God.

How To Deal With Lack of Appreciation

There are two things that help us deal with not being appreciated, the first is being filled with the Holy Spirit and the second letting our lives in every way be unto the Lord.

Being filled with the Holy Spirit as it says in Acts 1:8, you shall receive power is a key. Often we think of the Holy Spirit power to be just for the gifts of the spirit found in I Corinthians 14 but equally or possible more important in yielding the fruit of the Spirit as found in Galatians 5.

Galatians 5: 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, 23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. 24 And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. 25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. 26 Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another.

Living a life filled with the Holy Spirit gives a fresh new attitude and love for people and God that can take the edge right off those things that typically get under our skin. The Holy Spirit gives us power to love the unlovely and to be patient, not just when unappreciated but through all things. I truly believe in the Baptism of the Holy Spirit as separate work from salvation but I also believe that as we read the Bible and we look at our lives there is more that Holy Spirit can do than we have right now. We have to continually be seeking and asking for more of God’s spirit to be on us and continually using what we have. We really need to be a fountain of God’s presence as it flows from our innermost being then yielding the fruit of the spirit will become easier and easier.

Colossians 3:23 And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;

Where ever we are and whatever we do we most have the heart to do it as unto the Lord. Some of us may have some jobs and habits that need to change first but the goal is to put ourselves in position that pleasing God and knowing and doing his will always comes first.  Thinking about David and Joseph again they both did great things with great hearts in the midst of persecution from those that should have appreciated and honored them.  David was mocked by his older brothers but slaved Goliath in spite of their negative words. Joseph was unjustly put into prison and still did such an excellent job that the jailers promoted him. Both of these great men have many examples.

The Golden Rule

Don’t let your self be the one that does not appreciate others!


Matthew 7: 12 Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.

Begin to look around your home, your neighbors, your work place, and your church for things that are done that you have not expressed your appreciation for and express it! When we honor God’s word, God can’t help but bless us back and more than likely much of that blessing will come from those that you bless and be patient with the Holy Spirit with those that don’t get it for now!